remembering that kakashi was fuckign 26 years old when he got assigned team seven is blowing my mind right now. I was naruto’s age when I got sucked into this shit and now I’m kakashi’s and like,,,I get it. my man got assigned the generation’s WORST of the WORST gremlin children and he did the best he fuckin’ could. he nearly dies on every mission because sasuke refuses to go to anger management and naruto is so dumb he probably can’t even read. he’s got like 7 summons that are dogs and he could be spending all his time with them but is he/?? no. he’s got a sharingan making him so Perpetually Exhausted it’s a straight up medical condition and he has to spend all his free time restraining the two finalists of Konoha’s Next Top Orphan from getting people killed instead of like….teaching them. 26 years old and all that unbelievable bullshit. god. and!! then when he finally gets to take a fucking nap they make him hokage I honestly can’t believe he did it. wasn’t even 30 fucking years old. I can’t believe he didn’t leave the damn village himself.
oh my god yamato got slapped with the job at 26 too!!!! damn!!!!! kakashi’s half dead in a hospital and yam’s first gig as the world’s worst babysitter is having to deal with with one of them turning into an actual literal demon. wrecking forests and bridges and shit. sakura won’t stop crying. sasuke put on a yet another shakespearean drama in his new toga. the new one went to work in that hideous crop top. yam should have stayed at the spa. yam should have quit.
Simba gets a bad rap for like leaving pride rock and his mom and not wanting to go back and shit to face Scar but if I’d had the option after deeply damaging childhood trauma to just run off and disappear to be raised in paradise by a supportive gay couple I totally would’ve no tea no shade just facts
in therapy my therapist and i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to, on a romantic and platonic level. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said “you named things that you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are” and y'all..my mind was blown that’s gonna stick with me forever like she then proceed to tell me actual innate qualities about myself that she liked and thought anyone else would like as well and i hadn’t even considered those because like she said i was focused on things i could do outwardly to attract and maintain connections rather than who i was as a person..goddamn!!! thats tea!!!
With this in mind, this also makes me think of the ways people describe us. When people say the reasons that they love/like you or describe you as a person, are they only naming ways that you serve them? Are they equating your worth with how much you do for them?
ex. “You’re such a good listener. You’re so generous, you’re so compassionate. You’re always there for me. You always hold me down. You’re reliable”
vs.
“You’re so funny! You’re very vibrant. You’re creative, passionate, and intelligent. You’re optimistic. You’re so talented at ____” , etc. I think that’s very telling.
This FUCKED relationships up too because once this hit me, I realized people can just be in love with the way you make them feel instead of who you actually are. ALWAYS pay attention to the last little “vs” bit there because it IS super telling
Tying your self worth to what you do for others is just as dangerous as surrounding yourself with people who only want you for what you can do for them.
Compassion and empathy and being kind are amazing qualities to have. Caring for others and helping when you can are great and essential for balanced relationships; that’s the thing though, you need to get these things back. You need to get compassion and kindness back, from people who value your intelligence, your sense of humor, your awkward dance moves, your art/poetry/stick figure comics, you.
y’know…. conversations about world war ii would be a lot more bearable and constructive if white men found that period rightly horrific rather than pornographic
We glorify war because it’s the only time we’re allowed to release the beast and not go to jail for it.
You want to see who a man truly is, put him in a battle.
Man is never more himself, than when he has nothing to lose.
i genuinely do not think dogs, the loving goofballs that they are, would approve of people mercilessly shitting on cats for no reason other than the fact that they are not Dogs… you guys have learned nothing from the carefree teachings of the dog… they don’t want to be used to fuel your unwarranted hatred… what would your dog say… smh!
That person who helps others simply because it should or must be done, and because it is the right thing to do, is indeed without a doubt, a real superhero. - Stan Lee Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse (2018)
